{"id":837,"date":"2005-06-19T10:52:01","date_gmt":"2005-06-19T17:52:01","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/kattywilly.com\/blog\/?p=837"},"modified":"2005-06-19T10:52:01","modified_gmt":"2005-06-19T17:52:01","slug":"ramblings-of-a-father","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.kattywilly.com\/blog\/?p=837","title":{"rendered":"Ramblings of a Father"},"content":{"rendered":"

This morning Halley talked about Being Someone’s Wife<\/a>.
\nAs I have recently met some divorced women I have wondered why Cindy
\nand I got along better than these women who for some reason or another
\ndidn’t. Halley talks about being a wife, I agree with the things
\nshe says about wifedom. In our relationship Cindy was a smart,
\nintelligent, a scholar as well as beautiful, funny and loving
\nperson. She spent many years studying to be a dietitian, and then
\nwent on to study more and get a graduate degree in Health
\nEducation. She also studied and learned and earned credentials
\nthat allowed her to be a Diabetes Educator.<\/p>\n

I have a 2 year AS degree from a Junior College that took me almost 4 years to finish going to school at night. <\/p>\n

The part I find most interesting is that I ended up with salaries that
\nwere two or three times more than the amounts Cindy was able to make in
\nthe health care field. But she always worked hard to maintain her
\ncredentials and move forward in her career. I think we both had
\nthe feeling that there would come a day when all that hard work and
\nstudy would pay off for her.<\/p>\n

In Cindy’s case much of this was done while she was fulfilling her role
\nas a mother to our daughters. And that role wasn’t just getting
\nthe girls off to school and spending the rest of the day relaxing with
\nfriends eating bonbons. She volunteered at the girls school,
\nworked many part time jobs in her field, all the while studying and
\nearning continuing education credits to maintain her credentials, and
\non top of that she did all the usual chores of keeping a house running
\nsmoothly. Grocery shopping, bill paying, house cleaning, laundry,
\ncar pools, brownie troop leader, etc, etc. In other words she was
\njust like many moms in this world. She was a woman, mother,
\nhealth professional, and a wife.<\/p>\n

So here I was the working Dad that for many years worked long hours
\ndeveloping and installing computer systems. Fresh out of Jr.
\nCollege with an AS degree you feel like you should take what you can
\nget and make the best of it. I did that for several years working
\nlong hours and traveling. When we were ready to have children,
\nboth emotionally and economically, I was still working those long hours
\nand traveling. And then I got the call from Cindy in the middle
\nof the night. I was in a motel in Connecticut while on a business
\ntrip. She had called to tell me that her water broke. It was a
\nmonth before her due date and I needed to get there as soon as
\npossible. I called the airline and got tickets for the first
\nflight out which wasn’t going to leave until the next morning. I
\ndidn’t sleep that night. I remember pacing around that motel room
\nall night stopping every few minutes to watch some bizarre old movie
\nthat was on TV. It was one of the longest nights of my
\nlife. During the night Cindy started into labor and by morning I
\nwas calling the nurses station at each stop to see how Cindy was
\ndoing. Lindsey was footling breech<\/a>
\nand they were preparing for a delivery by C-Section. The medical staff
\nsaid they would wait as long as they could to try and give me an
\nopportunity to get there in time. In the end I only missed
\nLindsey’s birth by a few hours.<\/p>\n

I changed jobs when Cindy became pregnant with our second daughter to
\nmake sure that I wouldn’t have to experience my next daughter’s birth
\nover the phone to the nurses station. Cindy’s second pregnancy was even
\nmore exciting than the first one with Chelsey trying to come way too
\nearly at 27 weeks and Cindy spent much of that pregnancy bed ridden laying on her left side<\/a>.
\nChelsey ended up being born with a relatively normal delivery and proud
\ndad was in attendance in person rather than by phone.<\/p>\n

What does all this have to do with relationships and why Cindy and I
\nhad a relationship that was able to survive all those years? I’m
\nnot sure, but I think it had more to do with Cindy than it did
\nme. She made me the Father that I am today, and she made my
\ndaughters the amazing young women they are. The ones who got up
\nearly this morning to make me breakfast in bed, and give me gifts that
\nare more valuable than any present that I could buy for them to give
\nme. \ud83d\ude42<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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