Dave Pollard says things that I can sense but not put into words. Here he is talking about Surviving Trauma.
“If the response of a species were to grieve for years
over the loss, or over a decision error that may have cost a loved one
their life, the species would not survive — it would be incapacitated.
In a balanced ecosystem, these traumatic events are regular but not
chronic — most species spend most of their time in the joyous
activities of eating, exploring, mating, playing, sleeping, and sensing
the world around them. Their failure to grieve, at least for long, is
in my opinion due not to their small brains but to the fact that there
is too much joy and wonder in the world to waste much time grieving
over what happened or might have happened. It’s Darwinian — it happens
that way because it works, it optimizes the healthy survival of the
species.”
Reading “How to Save the World” really makes me think. Again
he is able to put into worlds some of the deep feelings that I have but
don’t quite understand enough to be able to put into words. The
pain I sometimes feel about what the girls have lost, the idea that
there are things they will never be able to do because of the loss of
Cindy, These are regrets for things that haven’t happened.